Why am I even writing all this down? I don't know. Because I know that all of you have experienced something similar with your H's and W's so I am finding a comfort in telling you!
Normal.
We have the rule eat what what you find unless it is clearly marked with someone name. Masking tape and sharpie. Helps but issues still come up.
As far as the convos, I believe less words is always better. One topic at a time helps as well. Remember you are dealing with a man. (5 year old child)
Originally Posted by Gerda
Gerda: Can you please sleep in (empty rental downstairs) tonight? I need to prepare all the Valentine's Day decorations and I want to have the lights on.
H: No. No I don't want to.
Maybe give information:
W: "I WILL BE preparing all the Valentine's Day decorations tonight. Most likely won't be done until X:30."
H:" Bla bla bla"
W:Suit yourself"
"What do you want me to do?" Give him 2 choices you are OK with. I am sure he will say these words again.
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H: (first trying to act understanding) I understand. You want to have things here that you purchased. But she wanted sweets. What did you want me to do?
W:"Tell her NO, or simply text me if it OK to use Item X"
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
