Dear Susy, so sorry to hear your story but amazed at how well you have handled it so far. I have absolutely no family in this country, WH BD’d me when our 2nd baby was 10 weeks and left home when our Ds were 3.5 and 7 months. I was a WRECK. If I can pull through, anybody can. You sound like a strong, independent woman, be proud of who you are. I am not fully healed but I am not at all the same person I was a year ago. Life is beautiful and we are blessed with daughters, we have been given the greatest chance to be role models for them. Make your life all about your D for now, give yourself and her the live that WH has taken away. You both deserve better, as hard as it is try not to brood. I have made a list of top 20 things that fill my tank, it could be as simple as sitting down for 5 mins and having your coffee in peace or dancing everyday to one of your favorite tunes with your D, try doing as many things as possible everyday from that list And just surrender to the present moment. You can’t change what happened because it already has, you don’t know how things will shape up in the future but you are the queen of NOW. The future is made beautiful by having a great Now. You are intelligent, smart, beautiful and most of all you are resilient. We have all been given a chance to go through this and use pain to grow in every aspect of our lives Make your life so beautiful that even if he wants to come back you will really need to reconsider
