I think I have been holding pretty well. It helped me that I started going to a gym. I have joined martial arts club which I wanted to attend since childhood and started taking piano classes also helped spending more time with friends, the ones who know don't want to spend time with her which is understandable. I still feel pain and the fair of the unknown. I feel I have fear of finding love again and how much time it takes to find a good person. But I think I am getting there where I think that She just figment of my imagination. When I get home if I see her I am polite and I say good day or good night. I don't ask her about her whereabouts or anything that sort, don't ask about her day unless she asks me. I was considering enforcing another boundary about her returning home each night, because she stayed with 3rd party couple nights already. However I am not sure if that would change anything. I said she has 2 month left to stop affair or to move out. I wish I had better sleep. I usually wake up at 2 am in the morning and have trouble falling a sleep again.
My therapist mentioned that I should ask her more about how she will tell parents and friends about separation also make sure that she thinks how the bills will be paid. Her opinion was that she needs to take responsibility of that as well. I was considering sending an email to my wife with those questions. What do you think if it's good idea.
By the way I am reading divorce remedy, however I feel it does not apply to my wife as she is wayward.
Thank you
confirmed A 12/26/18
signed unofficial separation agreement 1/29/19