Dating after Divorce

[AndrewP]

I think that kml has hit on a critical part of the discussion. What do people want? Do they even know that?

One second thing to toss out there is that it is well known that there can be some very unhealthy dynamics especially in the early part of a relationship. The narcissistic cycle of idealize, devalue, discard for example. The first part is sometimes also called "love bombing" or "mirroring" and is a classic "pick up" tactic that is used by both women and men. Sometimes consciously and sometimes not.

I know well from first hand experience how seductive it can be to think that someone is "really in to you" and for them to also think similarly.

So it all circles back to what kml said. If you know who you are and what you are looking for in a relationship then that is the sort of dating you will do.

Personally, I believe that confidence and self-awareness are the most attractive qualities that people of either gender can have. But there is no "one-size fits all". Some people are rescuers / fixers and are attracted to broken people. Some people are - for the lack of a better term - gold-diggers and are attracted to people who bring something extra be it money or good looks.

I'm going to follow along. This may be interesting.