For me. I did chase my ex when he left me. That was a panic move amd i blamed myself for him leaving. I did not know about the money or addictions at that point. If i had known of another woman, i can honestly say i would have had a lawyer a lot quicker.
I did initiate on OLD with the guy i am currenty with. I joked about something in his profile. I dont consider that chasing. I initiated with him because his profile was long and showed effort and indicated that he was looking for something serious but in a funny way. And because he had raised his child by himself. I sensed that he would not be confident enough to approach me so i knew i would have to make the first move. After that he initiated.
If i found out he was dating other women I would not sleep with him. I would not choose to sleep with soneone if i was dating other people. The sex wouldnt be good for me in that case. Im not saying i want to get married, just that i would not want to sleep with someone that was gonna sleep with someone else the following week.
If a guy kept asking me out, but was honest that he was going out with other women too, there would be no reason for me to keep dating him. I would figure, "hey he wants to see if theres someone better that he can get". He would not be worth my time. And i am not saying that to be snarky. It just would not be in my best interest.
As a background, i live in a very populated and dense area, so there is a lot of opportunity. In general, i do not have trouble with guys liking me or asking me out. Basically as soon as i was single, i had a lot of male friends of friends that expressed interest. I have a lot of anxieties but dating and men never stressed me because i know there will always be some one out there. I tend to view dating and relationships as a practical matter and i am very aware of my own self interests. . I think guys like me because i dont need them and do things independently but im not sure. I would choose to look differently, but im told positive things about my looks. (I know that people lie and I am aware that i am getting older) so i think that helps along with having a professional career. These are all surface things, i know but i tend to find that with men, you can get away with more if you have the surface things... again, im not trying to be snarky, just honest about the male/ female dynamics and dating world. Im the opposite. I want a guy that has good morals and will be devoted to me because that serves my best interests. I understand there can be flaws in that line of thinking as well though.
Rex. I have to say i enjoy and appreciate your honesty and i also like to be honest without having to worry about political correctness. Hope this helps
