(((RVA))) My H did the same thing in late December and claimed it was a time frame we had agreed on. A conversation I do not recall having. Anyway...I know this is tough RVA but honestly, it might be a good thing if she tends to overspend. In my sitch, my H had already hit me with a formal SA so the separating of the finances was an obvious next step. Try to have some patience and work on yourself. You can't worry about what this means...it will be what it will be and you don't have any control over what she is doing. I wish I had figured that out sooner. I understood it on an intellectual level but almost everything I did the first couple months fell under the category of pursuit and only pushed my H further away. Now he might as well be in another country. Please, please, please listen to the advice of the people on here. If you are going to have a chance at saving your M, it is vital. Anything you intuitively want to do, you should NOT do. And do NOT try to convince yourself otherwise. It will only backfire in the end. Focus on you and doing your 180s and GAL activities. You will be glad you did. (((HUGS)))
