Hi all ( the few who i still recognise). Just my yearly update and hopefully to give a 4 year view of the experience. All is good in my world, eldest D turned 18 yesterday and we had a great day. S23 is still working in the company and just got a new motorbike which he is loving. S20 is doing well finished his photography course and is now looking for work. D14 is getting fantastic results at school and has followed in her sisters footsteps as becoming a beautiful caring person. Im very proud of the 4 of them and how they have come through this tough time in their lives. Obviously it doesnt end for them but they have learned to cope and flourish.
I've always said this site was very wise and over the last 4 years I've seen most predictions on here come true. When my Ex left it was for a person that was not her type to put it kindly. My Ex is a college graduate, very strong person and not someone who suffers fools which makes her choice unusual to me. According to SIL thier R ddint start fully until Ex was gone for about 6 months ( i mention this for a reason) . DB advises that these types of R will only last about 2 odd years before the meltdown / reality sets in. DB was correct in my stich. About 6 minths ago i got lots of calls, emails and texts from EXW to say she had been beaten and verbal abused for the last 12 months and had to get a restraining order and her guy was imprisoned. DB always tells us that the WAS can try to reconnect the LBS has moved , again DB is spot on. I got all the apologies that i used to wish for, Ex claimed she wss lost and cant believe she acted as she did. She used the word fog several times. Ex asked for forgiveness and claimed full responsibility ( which is wrong but i appreciate the thought)
All of the above is to show that DB knows what it is talking about and if you can forgive and move forward then standing for your M can be worth it.
As for me im still with my lasy friend, we were on holiday in Iceland juat before xmas and had a great time. I am very lucky to have found her. I was tried on onli
