Moving on to the bright side part 20

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I would be surprised if she was seeing other men. Its almost like an unspoken rule in a situation like that. Personally, i find it hard to get to know someone if im dating a lot of people at once. I was never able to do that. I usually date 1 person and see if we are compatible. If not break things off.

This is mind reading and will only get you into trouble, unless you have specifically discussed being exclusive, i wouldnt expect it.

Personally, i find it hard to get to know someone if im dating a lot of people at once. I was never able to do that. I usually date 1 person and see if we are compatible. If not break things off.

while this may be true for you, it may not be for her. She may have no issue dating multiple men at once.

quote=JujuB] If she backed off a bit and was more elusive, i bet you would regain your stronger interest and stop worrying about committment phobia. This is pretty universal though. Its why nicer and more normal drama free girls tend to not get appreciated. They decide to one day bake cookies for you and you dont feel challenged.

Kind of why Archie neglects the hot blond for the spoiled Veronica. It doesnt make sense.

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It makes perfect sense. people like what they cant have. Once they can have it their interest level drops. Which is why many dating books say if she starts to lose interest then hold back your interest/attention and she will get interested again. It is a constant ebb and flow. It is also why the nicer and more normal drama free men get under appreciated also. Which is also against a normal mans thought, if it becomes worse one thinks they have to try harder. which only pushes her away more. It is also one of the reasons that DB says to go no contact. you reward good behaviour with your attention and punish bad behaviour with removal of your attention. women do this all the time by withholding sex or attention. If you piss them off they make it known that they are mad and they are not talking to you. You did something wrong in their opinion and they are now punishing you.

It is also why the easiest way to raise a womans interest level is to get noticed by other women. Its an inherent instinct to go after the strongest male for reproduction purposes. like it or not, that is nature.