A new girlfriend is not comparable to you situation. An exgf is a better comparison although not the best. I wouldn't be flirty either, that's just more pursuit. You keeping tabs on her through her brother is pursuit. She'll know that you're asking about her. If she goes for IC, that's great. But who knows why she is going. She may just be looking for someone who is going to tell her she is doing the right thing in leaving you.
You are chasing after something you can not catch. But it can come to you if you aren't chasing.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
