How are these rules enforceable? If she sleeps with someone and you say it isnt "allowed", then what is the penalty? She loses your "undying affection" which she doesnt care about anyway right now? Dont think about trying to 'control' her with the 'rules' of the separation. If you are going to proceed with such a thing, I would recommend that you think of it as a time to figure out what you want and what is important to you. Dont give her all of the mindpower to decide whether she wants to be with you....why does it have to be a given that you are all in once the trial period is over?
Originally Posted by Kwandoku
If I'm trying to detach, is it bad for me to insist that we shouldn't be allowed to see other people during the separation? On the other hand, my boundaries as a man makes me think that would the ultimate betrayal, and not something I'm willing to accept.
The I think you are within your rights to lay it out there for her at the start. "If you sleep with someone, then I cant accept that from a partner. Crossing that line will mean the end of the marriage for me." But dont expect that she will change anything she does based on your boundaries. They are for YOU to control what you will accept....not to control what SHE does.
