If you want to call it something to look forward to, I recently bought some new dress shirts to better reflect my weight loss of the last couple of years, to improve my appearance / overall attractiveness, and boost overall confidence / PMA.
My mom is also visiting SoCal from our native Ohio. She is here to visit me and the boys (that is the stated reason), but she is also here to be moral support and help me with what is going on with W.
D is kind of an epidemic in my family—my parents had an extremely unhappy / quasi-emotionally abusive marriage, and my mom left / separated when I was a junior in college (I was 22). My step-dad also divorced; and my uncle (mom’s brother) also is divorced and does the single dad thing. FWIW, W’s parents are divorced (when she was around 6).
When I was dating / searching for a marriage partner, and when I married W (and even W and I would talk about it earlier in our MR), I would talk about how I didn’t want to end up like my parents (or even my uncle) and get divorced. I so desperately wanted to avoid that—but now here I am.
The dress shirts are my Valentines’ Day gift to me; I want to do something for the boys too.
I’m concerned that things with W will continue to get much worse (and they probably will, but I also trust things will get better in time); I do appreciate your feedback on my thread, but W has threatened to take the kids and move out if I don’t agree to her parenting plan, or come up with something comparable. I have an email out to my L on this and a couple of other things—just waiting on a response, so we’ll see.
