This is too complicated to give you real advice about custody
Remember this
Court knows very little about your situation
Judge cares for safety of children
Judge does not care who is a good or bad parent
Assuming your H is not a convicted child abuser
Judge will appoint him some custody
Including overnights and vacations
Unless you are able to prove to the court that he is unfit for any overnights this is going to happen
I know you do not want it to happen
Pray for guidance
Get good counsel
Be the best Gerda in court and out of court
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving