Lost

[Jac12]

Thought I'd share an update:

A week ago I mentioned my W asked me if I would ever live in a condo (that's where she is now) and I said "If the person I was with wanted to live in a condo, I'd be open to that" and then she said "I mean when our S is still young" and I said "I'd be open"...anyways, I've found out that she was asking me in regards to our family living in a condo together. Is this a temp check? She has mentioned previously in our R that she wanted to move (we are in a nice house with backyard but doesn't have everything she wants).

My W recently invited me to her parent's house for V-day dinner...I typically work until 7 and she asked me if I could move some lessons around (I teach golf) to make it work. I have done that and will be having dinner with her, her parents and my brother in law and his GF.

I've been good at GAL and not pursuing her...she texts me occasionally about random things and respond when I feel like it...should I not?

Her brother spent Saturday night hanging out with her - he doesn't seem to think there is another man involved and thinks she just wants her freedom as she's probably felt overwhelmed with life in general and that if I can just give her space right now that would be best course of action. He's on top of asking her about her own IC and she apparently has a session booked 2-3 weeks from now and is on a waitlist.

I feel like there have been some small positives but I'm also trying to detach from that as I can't read her mind.

One of the things lacking in our M over the past 2 years with our son being born was the passion...I know she enjoys my massages so I was thinking of getting her a "Gift Card" for a massage from me for V-day as a flirty fun thing. I figure even if she is reluctant to she may at least be thinking of how nice it would feel. I think I can give her that with no expectations of how she'll take it. Should I or no? I thought I read it's good to flirt and treat like a new GF or maybe this is too soon....