Well it may be unrealistic to expect sensible choices right now.
Is your W having an affair? I can't recall and I don't see it in your signature. If your W was speaking quite clearly about things being "done" with you guys, maybe hold off on the cards for V Day and B Day. You can always just casually tell her happy Bday so she knows you haven't forgotten it.
I like your controlled emotions and expectations about everything. Very good to see that. I don't think you need to offer her breakfast more than once though. It's kind of weird when she just told you she's fine after the first offer that you'd ask again. It's not like she's a little kid who doesn't know better. To me, it's just part of giving her the space she's looking for. Maybe forget about her a few times. Not every time necessarily, but at least half. Do this for you, for her, for the MR.
And I hope you aren't still running into her at the gym, are you?
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.
