Just tossing back to him "H, I know things are not looking good right now, but I would like to know what you are planning for VD." after the emotional weekend seems passive aggressive somehow. I can't put my finger on it. Perhaps take out the part where you state how things are "not good".
To clarify those were my recommended words, but I did not know they already had V-D talk.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
