Still in limbo

[Living]

The real question is how do you (WE) get him to that point?

I’m not sure what to do to get him to that point. I suck at the lovingly detachment. I just cut him off and he can’t handle that. What I mean by cut him off is I pretty much stop talking to him unless he talks to me.


[quote] TAOS is one tool for you. It has been a long time since I read it, but it is full of counter intuitive things for you to consider.

It is one big cha-cha dance. You pull away, he purses. You just can't pull too far away. or he says F it.

I’m still working on that book. I’m almost finished with it.

I’m pretty sure I probably pull to far away. I’m kind of scared about that too. I don’t want him to say F it. We get so much advice on this forum that some days I’m not sure what the heck to do, lol.

I kind of like it when he pursues me, I’ll admit that. I guess I just don’t know what to do after that. Because I’m never sure what his true intentions are when he pursues me.

I am going to say this again. You have to make this fun. For you and for him.

He has to "Feel" that he is loosing you.

I’d love to take some of the pressure off and just have fun but I’m always worried I’m breaking the BD rules.

Last week he came in my room to tell me something and he tried to hug me and I punched him in the arm. Not in a violent way but sort of a playful way (I think, lol). He said do it again, and I did. Then he picked me up and threw me on the bed and we wrestled for a bit. We laughed like kids and guess what...I wanted to have sex with him.

I’m embarrassed to admit that. But our little playful moment turned both of us on. I didn’t do it by the way. Once I felt like would totally give into that, I told him I was tired and ready for bed. I told him good night and asked him to leave my room. Lol.

So I guess I’m just clueless on this Ready2Change.

What is going on for V-day?

I planned on treating myself to dinner and a movie.

What are your thoughts on this:
W:"H, I know things are not looking good right now, but I would like to know what you are planning for VD."

Before I left for the weekend he told me he wanted to take me to dinner. Every year for VD, our tradition was to go to our favorite restaurant. So he says he wanted to take me to dinner and I told him I already had plans. He responded, I would like to take you to dinner. I responded, with I’m not sure why we would spend VD together. He says why not? Anywho, the conversation ended with him saying the invitation stands and if you don’t want to go with me, I’ll go by myself, but I would love for you to go.