If you don't make him work he will not have any respect for you.
I'm just going to say this again b/c I've lived on the wrong end of this and thought "oh boy, we're back!!!", as in my W and I are back together and working on this marriage. It can't be said enough.
I've been through several times. It's one of those things I look back on and wonder why I didn't put my foot down right away.
That is so true ovrrnbw.
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together