He asked me would I be willing to put in the work and try to save our marriage together.
I told him that depends on a lot of things and I’m not prepared to answer that question as this time. I told him we both need some time and some space to really think about and evaluate our situation.
(stands up and claps) Well done! You handled that convo perfectly. You absolutely do not want to roll out the red carpet for him and stand there at the end of it with open arms. This is the first of many trips he may make back and forth from the castle (do you know the picnic analogy?) Expect him to pull back and pull back hard. Then he'll reach out, and pull back again, and on and on it will go. You just keep having your picnic. Make him work for it, he's wronged you and it's going to take work to get you back. If you don't make him work he will not have any respect for you.
