A familiar story with questions NINE

[RR17]

Thanks, Nefer.

It can be frustrating when I feel misunderstood. Nobody likes to be miss-accused. Sometimes the shoe doesn't fit.

No, W hated MC. Too much communication. Remember the story about finding her journal?

I believe the problem is that so much is good in the relationship now. Obviously, this is my take. I also believe that if and when we end up in bed together, it will be because of my actions. Almost like 2 platonic friends that just happen to fall into bed together. No real romantic feelings. Not consciously, at least.
This is how it happened the 1st time for us 25 years ago.

Does my W need therapy? Probably, who knows? I think it has more to do with emotional availability than sex itself. For 19 years we engaged 6-9 times a month. I can't think of a time she didn't climax, usually more than once. Yes, I believe they were real. We've discussed it and there are times she went for a second or third and couldn't find it. If she were lying to get it over with she wouldn't say "It isn't there, you just go." TMI
This emotional availability is something I benefited from for years. I now see the problems with it and realize it has its price.