It's totally ok to just feel terrible for a while because your situation is hard either way. If you give in to her it's like giving her the green light to keep manipulating you and taking advantage of you. If you don't give in she says she wants a divorce and tries to make you miserable.
Hey Ovr,
If it makes you feel any better, I’m here a bit myself.
My W wants to know what I’m feeling / thinking about all this. I’m keeping it pretty tight-lipped (except here on the forums), and doing my best to validate. She doesn’t like it, though—especially with her calling me fake, among other things.
We had a discussion yesterday where she talked about how she never really wanted a D, she just wanted to separate for a little while, and potentially work on reconciliation—but because of especially how I’ve been acting the last couple of months (since starting DB’ing more intentionally), she claims that I’m pushing her (and any hope of recon) further away, and that she doesn’t want to come back.
She also wants me to agree to her parenting plan, or else she will escalate (file for divorce, leave / take the kids, etc. I won’t get into specifics here; if you want you can check my thread / sitch).
