A familiar story with questions NINE

[RR17]

Nothing on the home yet.

Knowing my wife, the more emotional I attach to sex the worse it will be received.

I hear what you're saying. But suggesting any kind of therapist is the equivalent to saying. "Let's go fix what is wrong with you." A big mistake IMO.
Besides, I don't think she really needs one. I think she is using this as a hold-back until she gets all she wants. I'm not sure she even knows what that is. The way back to a healthy intimate relationship is something I think she is waiting to happen. In the meantime, she likes the results in the other parts of the R.

Of course, this is just my opinion.

I've thought about just sending a text saying "I dreamt we had sex last night." I know it sounds lame and yes I picked "sex over "made love" intentionally for reasons explained above. Just to see the response.