I am not an expert on sexless M's but I would suggest a more positive approach. Instead of "Perhaps ask her if she still feels like it is never going to happen" maybe say something like "I've really been enjoying our relationship together recently and feel like restoring intimacy would be a great way to rebuild our bond, what do you think?" Maybe suggest a specialty therapist, I hate to say "sex therapist" because there are some negative connotations there.
