What kind of things is he texting you about that you think are needs? When you slow it down, he may wonder why you aren't as responsive, it may change things for him.
I've been pretty good about not initiating texts and not responding immediately to his texts. I doubt there's any wondering going on, as we went an entire day and a half without any contact, and he could give two.... When I say needs, its mostly about our dog. He will let me know if he's fed him or ask if he should take him with him when he leaves that night if I'm going to be late, etc.
Originally Posted by ovrrnbw
You have a good male friend? Is he gay? I'm not judging, but usually male friends maintain the friendship as part of a long term plan to achieve a certain goal, and the woman is happy to tell everyone how they are "just friends". I don't know that this means anything to your sitch but it stood out to me. My W's OM was "just a friend".
Yes, he's a good male friend from high school and no he's not gay. He's also in a relationship so. Nothing there.
Originally Posted by ovrrnbw
As far a separating, that's up to you. Is he having an affair? If not, then I'm not sure if separation is something I would do or not do. It's harder that way. If he was having an affair separation would be more sensible. Either way he may find a way to make you the bad guy, that's how it usually happens.
I can't really answer to whether or not he's having an affair. When I asked him a few months ago he vehemently denied it. But why would a liar suddenly decide to start telling the truth? His behavior points to yes, but I can't verify it to be true. TBH, he's kind of started the separation himself by staying at his dads rental house. So I guess I'm just solidifying it by leaving too.
