Well I had it out with W this afternoon. She brought up divorce again. We both yelled at each other. We both got sad. We hugged. We talked. All anti DB stuff. She says I punished her by cancelling our plans yesterday to go hang out with my friend. W says that she told me if I cancelled our plans it would be to punish her and that she's out if I'm punishing her. Well she stepped over the line, why do I have to be put in that position? I'm not patient enough she says. She was patient for years (which is true).
I told her I love her and want her to be my wife and we are in the best spot we've been in to deal with everything but if this one mistake means divorce then I won't try to stop her. She cried more.
I'm feeling hopeless. Like this isn't going to work. Why is she pushing me so hard?
LB that meal sounds good man. I found some huge blackberry bushes and made lots of cobbler. I love summertime, blackberries, tomatoes, warm water, warm air, long days, hot nights. Can't wait.
ovrrnbw,
I read you giving great advice to others, and then see you making mistakes that go against your own advice. I didn't have a WW wife, so I'm not an expert on these things. However, the advice given to others and by you is to never lose your temper, set boundaries and stick to them, detach, don't engage in R talks, etc. Stay strong. I'm about the worst person to get advice from. I was divorced less than 4 months after BD--despite sticking to DB tactics. I chalk it up to sometimes there's just nothing you can do. I do feel I'm at a better place than most because I did stick to DB tactics--even though my marriage is over. GAL, 180, detach. Do it. Then, do it some more. Do it until you make it--with or without your wife.
