Not sure what to do

[ovrrnbw]

Everything you're saying like he's not looking me in the eye or texting me as much I experienced. But you really don't know why he's doing that and it doesn't mean much as far as hope for getting him back into the MR. What kind of things is he texting you about that you think are needs? When you slow it down, he may wonder why you aren't as responsive, it may change things for him.

You have a good male friend? Is he gay? I'm not judging, but usually male friends maintain the friendship as part of a long term plan to achieve a certain goal, and the woman is happy to tell everyone how they are "just friends". I don't know that this means anything to your sitch but it stood out to me. My W's OM was "just a friend".

The attitude your H is taking sounds similar to the one you should take.

As far a separating, that's up to you. Is he having an affair? If not, then I'm not sure if separation is something I would do or not do. It's harder that way. If he was having an affair separation would be more sensible. Either way he may find a way to make you the bad guy, that's how it usually happens. I'm very very happy to read that you have worked through your fear of quitting that job and pursuing your dream. You only live once.