Been a tough weekend for me. This was the first weekend without the boys where I didn't have any plans. The time alone has been good and bad. It's been nice to just enjoy some quiet time to myself, but it's also given me time to sit and ruminate on things. Things had actually been going well for me on the emotional front but this weekend I've been very emotional about my sitch.
I've been working on detaching and feel like I was doing a pretty good job until this weekend. I've been thinking about W a lot. I have been limiting my contact with her over the last month. It's helped me move toward detachment but every once in a while I get sad because to me it feels like she doesn't care that I'm not contacting her. These thoughts don't occupy a lot of my time but they do creep in every once in a while. I will chalk most of this up to having a free weekend. I notice when I have things to do my mind stays off my W and our sitch.
I learned earlier this week that W has been attending a Divorcecare group at the church she attends with her parents. It sounds like a group that helps both divorced and separated people with an emphasis on reconciliation. She said it's 15 weeks with meetings once a week. I haven't talked to her about the details of the group because she said she wanted it to just be her thing. I know people around here say not to focus on W, but I'm glad she is doing something to work on herself. She also told me she is going to start IC next week. This is something she should have been doing for a while because she had been saying she doesn't have a chance to deal with her emotions related to our sitch because she either has the kids or she's with her parents since she's living with them.
