LB, that's right. She told me one thing and did another. I guess snapchat was more important than her marriage, and I told her that her actions speak for themselves. I'll look for that book, but I'm trying to not involve my emotions much. Hell, every time I kissed her in the last month I was thinking this could be the last time I kiss her or hear her tell me something.
Yep she violates boundaries and until she stops nothing will likely improve. That book has been good for me as it is not about being emotional or trying to fix your R; rather it’s about how to be able to step back and take stock of yourself and see what it is that makes you happy. I derived most of all of my happiness and self worth from my R, and it devastated me at BD because I really have nothing to fall back upon. I am finding it useful to identify behaviors that I want vice whati think others want and how to not react emotionally to others needs all the time. Taking care of yourself first.
You and I would get along in our cooking habits...brined Pork tenderloin seared in cast iron and finished in the oven, Brussels sprouts, Parmesan risotto, a nice Chardonnay; blackberry cobbler with home made vanilla ice cream for dessert is my easy go to dinner for special occasions.
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Me40; W38; S12; D9 BD11/19/2018 D filed 12/20/18 D Final 7/2020 Being the best example I know how for my kids to see.
