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[Jac12]

This was my first weekend without my son...during the handoff I was positive and friendly but broke down pretty good once they left.

I have a question:

A nurse friend of mine and my W, who was on Mat Leave the same time as my wife, believes that there was some postpartum depression that wasn't addressed. Basically, my wife sheltered herself during Mat Leave rarely taking our son out for walks or to meet other mom groups. Probably spent 95% of her time indoors, sleeping when he slept, and doing nothing else around the house. Most of the time was SPring/Summer too so it was nice out. She has since said that she's felt caged for 2 years.

Also, with her dad's lung cancer, now spread to the brain, our nurse friend thinks she could still be suffering from postpartum or now she's just depressed.

My W still refuses to get help, but our friend suggested I talk to our family doctor about postpartum and she might be able to schedule a visit with Chantel for something else, and then ask some targeted questions about her time with our son.

Any thoughts on how this may or may not change how I deal with this? I'm still giving her space right now and working on GAL - our interactions so far are positive and she texts me the odd time about random things. I do respond just not right away all the time. I mix it up.

Thank you.