Thanks Adam. That's good advice because I don't put much value on fun but it's a nice thought. After all this pain and misery it's nice to remember what it's like to have fun!
There's a quick update on the guy I wrote about - he texted me from a ski resort in France at 2:00 AM his time tonight. He'd had a few drinks but we talked for a long time. We're going to meet in person in April. We'll see how it goes.