You can definitely do better! That's outrageous to hear she wants back on the joint account. You've given her so many chances but she just doesn't get it. It's too bad because if you do get divorced she'll realize too late how generous you were with her. Like a lot of folks have written she'll respect you more if you enforce these boundaries and it'll help set the stage for whatever happens in the future, so keeping her off the account would be a good move on your part. That's also good to hear you plan to pursue separate interests and you have the confidence in yourself to know you'll make it no matter what. I think you have a bright future ahead.
