My W told me the other night that we aren't compatible, and basically that we're no longer right for each other. She wants out.
What I find bizarre about what she told me the other night is that her IC was with *me* in fighting for the marriage, at least until a month ago. (I know, believe nothing they say, and I know the forums talk about how ICs validate the spouse--which is surprising to me, considering how much W has been talking D for the past year--I thought that was from the IC).
She also told me that she often wondered during our MR if I was even attracted to her. I was, deeply, but I didn't always show it or show it the way she wanted. We had conflicts about sex and sexuality. I would always call her beautiful or sexy and I would touch her and be physical with her. We just didn't have sex as much as she would like, or in as many different ways as she would like.
I really like what you wrote earlier, and I'll take it to heart.
Bo562,
Nothing that they say makes any sense to those of us thinking with logic. They are all over the place. All we can do is work on ourselves. That’s the advice we get from the vets. We only have control over ourselves. Our spouses are a hot mess! Lol!
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
