Post-divorce my focus has been on making my 180s permanent. I'm going to document my 180s, so that they are here for me to read.
1) Physical attractiveness - My goal was to continue my diet and exercise and remain under a target weight. I have met this goal. I also wanted to look my best as much as I could. I still regularly shave and dress nicer than I did pre-BD (don't wear hoodies much anymore).
2) Emotional attractiveness - I think I'm doing pretty well here. I wanted to regain my swagger. Be a little more confident, playful, and sarcastic. Be more like the guy I was pre-marriage. I'm still working on this. Divorce hurts the ego and confidence, but I'm realizing that I'm a catch for a lot of girls.
3) Faith - I attend church as much as possible and I joined a Life Group at church. I couldn't find a serving Life Group though, so I attended my first Life Group for divorcees tonight. I have not done Bible Study every night though. I really want to focus on that.
4) Volunteer work - I continue to volunteer when I can--although I have been out of town a lot recently.
5) Fatherhood - I'm still fully invested in my girls.
6) Procrastination - I'm doing really well here. When something needs to get done, I do it.
7) Listening - I was a good listener before/when I met my XW. Towards the end of my marriage, I had checked out. When my wife would rant, I would tune her out. I've really tried to concentrate on listening to people I talk to--whether that's with family/friends or co-workers. I need to continue working on this. I need to continue learning how to validate properly.
8) NGS (Nice Guy Syndrome) - I need to continue working on not being so defensive. I'm doing better with not caring what others think and concentrating on my wants and needs (in a good way).
9) GAL - I'm really enjoying all of the GAL activities I've been involved with. I have continued to talk to at least one family member or friend every day. I have not really branched out in my effort to become a better cook. I do some cooking, but it's mostly food that I'm comfortable making already.
