My W told me the other night that we aren't compatible, and basically that we're no longer right for each other. She wants out.
What I find bizarre about what she told me the other night is that her IC was with *me* in fighting for the marriage, at least until a month ago. (I know, believe nothing they say, and I know the forums talk about how ICs validate the spouse--which is surprising to me, considering how much W has been talking D for the past year--I thought that was from the IC).
She also told me that she often wondered during our MR if I was even attracted to her. I was, deeply, but I didn't always show it or show it the way she wanted. We had conflicts about sex and sexuality. I would always call her beautiful or sexy and I would touch her and be physical with her. We just didn't have sex as much as she would like, or in as many different ways as she would like.
I really like what you wrote earlier, and I'll take it to heart.
