It is important to learn. She had talked about the 5 languages once before, but never asked me mine. I asked my W what hers was, she said 'active communication'. I didn't recall that being one of the options, I went and looked it up, and it wasn't one of them. I thought that was strange if she had looked at the 5 languages before. Mine is physical touch and acts of service in combination. I feel proud when I make a nice dinner for everyone, or wash her car, etc. she never really looked a t cooking s nice meal as anything but a meal to eat. I could make fabulous meal with 3 courses, wine, and dessert; she would view it as dinner. That would let me down and think I needed to do better to impress her. That is faulty thinking. The act of love was still there, however it wasn't received as such, and she rarely did things to do an act of service for me, so I always felt a bit of resent because I didn't get the love back. She was good at physical touch, at least until about September.
Lesson learned is to tell your spouse what you need from them vice expecting them to figure it out. Spouses aren't mind readers. Sorry to hijack your thread Living, just kind of went on a story rant.🙂
No need to apologize, feel free to hijack anytime. We are all on here to help each other.
You sound like an amazing man who put a lot into his M. I’m going to check your thread to read more on your sitch. However, I just want to say that I hope your W wakes up and realizes what a great man you are before she lives to regret it.
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
