My love language is quality time and its just who i became in the r for some reason. The w hated it and felt smothered. she wanted alone time/space.
So i had fear of abandonment she had fear of entrapment. We went out for date nights every week , go hiking, go shopping you name it . So a lot of stuff says to spend time together do date nights etc, I guess thats not always true . In my relationship it was too much i guess.
I guess the lesson here is to learn each other’s love language. I loved spending quality time with my H. I didn’t need him to smother me but time together was great. What I needed was quality time outside the house. I need date nights. I needed adult time away from the kids. I need adult time that didn’t always equate to sex.
At this point I have no clue what my H’s love language is. Apparently he’s been faking for so many years. He says we aren’t compatible, we don’t like the same things, etc. (shrugs shoulders) What I do know is when we met, the one thing that we were amazed about was how much we had in common. Perhaps this is the whole re-writing history thing that’s discussed on here. Because although I agree with some of what my H says. He confuses me on so much.
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
