My H was the same. He wanted to be up under me 24/7. I had been in relationships in the past where my s/o was very emotionally distant. So it flattered me that my H wanted to be with me all the time. However by doing so, he lost sight of who he was as an individual. Now he feels like he doesn’t know who he is as a person. We very rearely went on dates. And that was one of the big issues I had in the M. I felt like my emotional needs weren’t being met. I addressed this with my H. He would plan a date and then it was back to business as usual.
My love language is quality time and its just who i became in the r for some reason. The w hated it and felt smothered. she wanted alone time/space.
So i had fear of abandonment she had fear of entrapment. We went out for date nights every week , go hiking, go shopping you name it . So a lot of stuff says to spend time together do date nights etc, I guess thats not always true . In my relationship it was too much i guess.
