And I saw today she has snap chat again so I told that makes me mad bc she said she'd get rid of it to help rebuild trust. Those were 2 of my boundaries when she came back again on Christmas. So I got out of bed and told her I can't comfort her anymore. So tired of this game.
Violating your boundary is why you are mad, not because she has snap chat. Perhaps stating that violating boundaries that you set is unacceptable and then getting up and leaving. This may help her understand that failure to respect your boundaries(no matter what they are) will have undesired consequences, vice just the act of having snap chat will have negative consequences.
I am reading a book on being co dependent no more, it has really good stuff about emotional detachment and boundaries. It's helping identify behaviors I do that caused me to be dependent upon my W for everything emotional or social. It's good stuff.
Keep a level head brother.
Me40; W38; S12; D9 BD11/19/2018 D filed 12/20/18 D Final 7/2020 Being the best example I know how for my kids to see.
