She wants to get the credit card payed off, and since there isn't enough joint account money left, she wants us to sell some joint investments to do it. I am not against this idea, it meets my goal of getting it closed out. However she then said she also wants to sell some extra to help our individual checking accounts meet needs during this transition because she is sure we both need it. My account is just fine. What I hear from that is 'I am feeling the financial squeeze already and want more to feel comfortable'. She wants me to take care of it before the 1st. I suspect her first payments are due for all her new furniture and her ski trip and L fees and stuff are adding up.
I said 'I am not prepared to discuss finances right now', proposed meeting in person to discuss the financials and taxes and all that stuff next week over lunch because it's way easier than email, and if we can be mature about it will save us lots over paying L to deal with it. She said she doesn't want to do it in person because we have too many intense emotions, but she will think about it for the future. Guilt is an intense emotion for her. I will just keep doing my thing.
My X sold off assets to buy a new car for herself (lawyers negotiated this). My advise is get CC paid off.
Sell some extra. Take your half and reinvest. You may take a tax hit, but at least it is split.
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
