I was massively depressed before BD for about three years.
I had dropped over 60lbs and was down to 168 and in the best shape since I stopped playing college ball. I got my dream job, and we bought our first home. I think I just accomplished so much in the two years before that that I kind of felt like I deserved a break...
Then I started really losing a lot of hair and that mad me really depressed... then the weight started to creep back...and the negging at home...and the demands at work plus two little one under 5 and I just kind of was walking through this fog until the BD snapped me out of it.
What I'll say about goals like hygiene and just general self care is that you are doing it right. you have to make it part of a routine. Looking good makes us feel good, so do it every day and you'll feel better every day
About your teeth:
If the quote is something set in stone, do they have payment options you could take advantage of? short-term loan? is it something you could budget for and get it done in a few months?
I just spent $3K on my 6yo's mouth. IT drives me nuts to pay that much on work for teeth that are just going to fall out anyways, but it had to be done.
Keep going to the gym, keep reading, and keep yourself looking good, man! Hope this weekend give you time to process exactly what you want from your life and what you deserve in all your relationships!
