13 years and 2 kids pt. 4.

[Hurt213]

Journaling:

Thanks for the input guys, helped me a lot. I am back on track, and things are great.

Kids and I have been to a "play mansion", no idea what the right word is, but basically a place filled with blow up trampolines, slides and fun stuff. So kids are beat, I am as well, but we had a blast.

Kids slept at my parents place yesterday, because I had a work dinner, and I picked em up this morning, and we went straight to the play mansion. Now we just ordered a pizza, and I turned on the fireplace, we are tugged in under blankets, and the rain is hammering against the panorama windows - its really cozy .

So, question on how to respond to the following episode: Ex texted me on friday and said, that she would be coming home wednesday (splitting the week because its a holiday in our country). She then proceeds to say, that she hasn't cleaned the house (understatement of the year, food, clothes and stuff everywhere and it was filthy) because she had an incident at work, and was too tired the night before to clean up.

Basically, two kids (third grade kids) got into a brawl, and she stepped in to stop, however they continued, and she was hit or something, she didn't clarify. However she had been talking to the school psychiatrist friday in the morning to get the episode out of her body and mind, and she was ok, but very tired.

I came home, and she had managed to wash clothes, and picked out the stuff she wanted to pack to go to OM, the rest was either left on the drying rack, or had been thrown on the floor. She had left intimate razors and old clothes in the bathroom and looked like she just packed what she needed and left it.

So, she is pretty fragile, and always has been (easy for her to cry, not confrontational at all), and I guess I believe her when she says the incident was hard on her.

On the other hand, she mustered the energy to pack whatever she found useful and then left the place in chaos for me to return to with the kids.

Dont know what the right approach is here.

Did respond to her text with: "Hi. I am sorry you had a bad experience at work, and I can understand that it must have been tough. I hope you are doing alright things considered." <--- before I saw the mess she actually left behind. We are talking days worth of not cleaning up..

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