staying the course

[sandi2]

I realize I am starting from the last time I posted, which was Dec 2, but there is a reason. You followed up with a response, and the following quotes are from that post.

In general my Ws venting has been about what she has done wrong. She has apologized continuously and has shown extreme disappointment in herself about what she has done to me with A. Although no details have been mentioned she acknowledges that it will have to come up just isn't ready.

We haven't discussed NC with OM or A like I said but her opening up has been more and more of her realizing the hurt she has done to me...def not just I'm sorrys at this point.

I know drinking is a problem and haven't addressed yet but she is having surgery at the end of the month that will put her out of commission for 10 days so maybe that will be a turning point for her but we'll see.

I am making sure to still keep my distance and not diving in emotionally although I will admit physically am failing as we have had that connection which I know is probably not good but she is 100% the initiator.

That was the last we heard until Jan. Then, you posted:

Things have been better since W started working at home, def see a desire to move in a direction closer to me. The GG wild activities have stopped but most certain still texts OM.

W has shown a lot of emotion about what she has done and intentions to get her life back, ILYs, intimacy, normalcy even when sober, etc. I have been extremely cautious and have not put my wall down nor have I engaged when things don't look right.

W looked at me and said she understood why I reacted the way I did last night to request to see phone. She did not acknowledge who it was or anything else but I realize if things are going to get better I have to let this play it's course and not push or make demands.

Originally Posted by AnotherStander

Sorry for not being up on your sitch but are you still in an IHS basically? Has there been any talk of recon, or is she just content with "status quo" for now?

Not so much IHS, actually have spent most time in MBR. No talk of recon, haven't seen what I would call full remorse. Knows she messed up and knows she is messed up but hasn't addressed. Walking very lightly because I know there has been contact with OM, not sure how much or to what extent.