Good. Yes you do but at least you're limiting future damage.
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Why do I love somebody that is trying to destroy me emotionally and financially?
Well, probably like most of us you love the person she used to be. The one that you married, that loved you unconditionally. That person has been snatched and a new person has taken her place. The new person wants nothing to do with you. You're probably clinging to the thought that if you hang on and keep loving her then the old person will resurface. She might, but it is going to take her a long time and during that time she wants as much distance from you as she can get. I'm almost 7 years post-BD and my ex has slowly over the last couple of years started acting more like her old self. So yeah, for 4 or 5 years she was the cold, seemingly heartless person I first met the day of BD. Then she slowly started being more like the woman I married. But she's still a much different person.
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I have played all my cards by the book and I see no results and it is actually getting worse
One of the sayings here is "it will get worse before it gets better". She's on a long journey and it will be a rocky one. Detach and give her room, it's all you can do.
