Uncertain of What I Have (Thread 6)

[LH19]

B,

I know you think I am hard on you but I want you to come out of this knowing that you have things to work on. Your W crying in the shower is a big red flag that you were hurting her. Not sure if you are aware of the seriousness of it.

If I was as abusive as she claimed, the kids would be nowhere near me, and she would have left (and taken the boys with her) long ago. Not too long ago she was claiming that she wouldn’t leave our condo—why wouldn’t she leave if I’m allegedly that abusive?

Did she give specifics on how you were abusive?

She also talked about how poorly matched we are right now, especially with respect to sex / sexuality. Granted, this has been an area of growth for me over the last year especially—but I’ve stopped pursuing her sexually since November (stopped it as a form of pursuit in general).

AS talks about this all the time, yes she is complained about this in the past but she doesn't want you to fix it now. That shipped has sailed.

Even my L has made allusions to W thinking that the grass is greener.

I took it as your lawyer suspects she is having an affair.

I am not saying this is your fault I am saying you need to own your side of the street and start to construct a plan on how the future is going to look for you and your children. Forget about intimacy, dating etc and first learn to stand on your own.