She's probably right about YS, but it would likely be temporary and revisited later after he's weaned. She's probably not right about the court not splitting up the boys, I think they would consider the custody separately due to the age difference and because one is breast-feeding and the other isn't.
Perhaps. A question for the L, nonetheless.
Originally Posted by AnotherStander
One thing you have to understand about IC's is they are mainly just there to listen and validate. They typically don't try to steer patients in a particular direction, but rather they just mirror back what the patient is saying to them. So her IC is telling her what she wants to hear basically. The IC's words mean nothing, I mean absolutely zero.
That’s basically what I thought as she was telling me this—I heard here that ICs listen and validate, so what is all this?
W has been talking about divorce / separation since she first went back to an IC about a year ago. She’s been saber-rattling about all this since last January / February. October she talks about potential S. Early January she hits me with BD / parenting plan. Whatever chica.
Hence, my confusion about all this in my head—WTF is all this she’s telling me?
Originally Posted by AnotherStander
Probably alligator tears. How dare you not just go along with her perfect little plan! Threats aren't working, so why not resort to tears. When that doesn't work it'll be back to threats.
She basically blamed me for her reaction. “See, this is what I mean” about me ‘hurting’ her. I’m ‘choosing’ to ‘hurt’ her—continually, always have done that over our MR, according to her.
She was probably also stunned that I took her up on her offer. Great—because it buys me more time.
Originally Posted by AnotherStander
Talk to your lawyer and ask what the process will be if she does just disappear with the kids. Find out what you can do to circumvent her from doing that. I would think the courts would not look favorably on her if she's the one that ups and leaves and rips the kids from the family home and their father. Then again I would not put it past her to make up lies about domestic abuse.
Thanks for the legal advice / thoughts. Questions for the L, definitely. I do think courts won’t look too kindly on her. I also have thought about her just doing this in terms of logistics. She’s gonna start packing it all up? Also, next week I believe is the last week of the federal government continuing resolution. So we could be looking at another shutdown again—no paycheck for W.
