If you remain in the relationship with secrets, you have shown him it's OK. So the other option is to walk away. And then that's it, you don't talk to him for a while. Let him stew in the loss of you. Let him feel horrible. You're scared to do this, I'm sure.
It is scary to do. I KNOW I don't want to be in a relationship with secrets, lies etc. That's what our old relationship was like. I haven't called. I did answer when he called yesterday and today but was short and to the point. If we are supposed to be back in a relationship, there shouldn't be so much BS, threats etc..
Originally Posted by ovrrnbw
I'm sure he also has a trick up his sleeve. Take away his power to use those tricks. You are capable.
If he is mad, that's probably good. He is stomping his feet about not getting his way. Boo hoo.
He's yelling at other people to leave you alone, but he won't treat you right? Boo hoo. When you say he's your EX, what is the relationship status?
He definitely prefers to get his way. Do I not answer his calls? I recently told my IC that I don't know how to handle conflict, so I normally just don't handle it.
He seems to be getting frustrated more frequently than in our relationship pre BD. I probably sound pathetic at times but I am much less pathetic now than I was pre BD. I stand my ground much more now. :-)
He doesn't treat me the way I want to be treated. I feel lied to in a way. 3-4 months ago he promised sunshine and rainbows and I still am waiting for those.
Relationship status: Previous, dated 7 years, engaged, never married. Current, dating each other, spend weekends together and normally 2-4 days during the week. We are not living together. Home was already mine when we started dating.
