Today is transition day when my kids go to their dad's for the weekend. As per usual, my son was in tears this morning about having to leave his home and me and saying he is going to miss me too much. So this morning, I texted my H to let him know that S11 was upset and asked him to make sure our D11 had the kids' cell phone so I could call him this evening. H texts back a super cheerful response "Of course we'll make it work" with exclamation marks. He then texts me later to tell me S11 always has fun and it is just an "S11's change of venue" issue" as if transitions are just difficult for S11 in general. Could not let that go. Just said that it is not just a transition...it is having to leave his home to go to a house where his dad lives with another family and another woman ("roommate") who is not his mom. I also said that yes, he is sensitive, but it doesn't make his feelings and thoughts any less valid and that I know he (H) wants this to be as easy for the kids as it is for him but that is just not the case. So, of course, I feel bad that I reacted that way and apologized. I know it hurts him too. He texted back right away and said he would work with him lots this weekend. Missed the mark this morning on peace and forgiveness I guess. I really wish I could just run away for a couple months and get my head and my heart in alignment once and for all.
