I'm not 100% on your situation, but if you plan on H being in S's life at all after the divorce - I would press with the financial adjustment now. You may not get as much in child support or alimony, but the combined income will be higher which benefits everyone involved. Your business will have a year's worth of progress (and income building) and your H will have to pay less in support, which leaves everyone with more cashflow to focus on the kid (ideally). A rising tide lifts all boats, as they say.
That is my thinking. H wlll be ok financially. Now I have to make sure I’m ok as well. And I definitely want him and S to have a relationship when this is over. He’s a good dad. Can’t take that away from him.
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I'm not your boss (apparently you're your own boss, you bad@ss entrepreneur), so you do you.
Not quite there yet but when I do get there I will definitely a bad @ss entrepreneur!!!!!
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Originally Posted by ovrrnbw
Originally Posted by LH19
I would really think about if it is smart for you to make as much money as you can right now. The less you make the more he will have to give you in child support and alimony.
Nothing says detachment and moral superiority like manipulating the system to make your spouse pay you more money.
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Well said - take what you're owed, but don't game the system to punish your H. Be strong, be independent, free yourself.
That is my plan. Won’t try to punish him, I’ll leave that to God and karma, I just want what’s fair.
Original BD: 10/26/2017 PA: 10/2017 - 11/2017 Second BD: 09/15/2018 Currently: IHS M: 42 H: 45 S: 22 lives on his own D: 18 away at college S: 15 still lives at home - the only child we share together
