This stage is the hardest because they are starting to return and we, the lbs, get very impatient. She really is still in a fragile state and you will need to continue to treat her like a skittish kitten for a while.
Patience, listening and validating right now are the major keys.
Continue as you have been and keep the focus on you and your children.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.