I'm assuming he is mad at me for calling him out on his secret keeping.
About the tractor? He's giving you the silent treatment for asking where the tractor is stored? Wow you've got quite a passive/aggressive guy on your hands. I just went back and read through your whole thread and frankly I'm not understanding why you agreed to try to recon with him when he did nothing but treat you poorly and with disrespect and continues to do so. I think the only reason he mentioned recon at all was because you were pursuing child support. He's using it to control and manipulate you. Here's my advice to you and I suspect you already know it's what you need to do- tell him the recon is officially canceled. No more dates, no more chummy phone convos, no more texting. If you canceled the legal proceedings for the child support then get that ball rolling again. Get a set schedule in place for custody and follow it. That is the ONLY time you should see or talk to him. I'm not saying completely give up on him, but he's got a long, long way to go before he starts owning the damage he's done to you and is truly ready to pursue recon with a HUMBLE HEART. Anything less than that should be unacceptable to you.
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I'm not going to play his game or chase him and have my lines ready for when I do talk to him. I told my IC yesterday that if I were in the same situation I am in now, in 6 months or 3 years, I would be so angry at myself. I just want to be happy.
Exactly, and I think you'd be much happier alone right now. Again I'm not saying give up and quit standing, but you've got to let him hit rock bottom before things might improve. By the way, is he still binge drinking?
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She also mentioned men exist that don't call women names. Who knew!
I see this so often here where women who have been subjected to emotional abuse for a long time don't even realize it anymore. They lose sight of what a "normal" relationship looks like.
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This weekend, we went out of town with friends and it was fun. For some reason I kept getting hit on by random guys. Ex made sure to come over and stake his claim. When we got back to the hotel he mentioned that he should have knocked one of the guys out. Ha ha. That was one thing during our sitch that stayed consistent, he constantly asked me if I was seeing or dating anyone and that he hoped I wasn't.
Often when a man is saying things like this it's because he is actively engaging in an affair himself. People in affairs are outrageously paranoid of their own spouse/ girlfriend, it's really ironic.
