You and your wife are in what I call "reconnection". Reconnection can take up to 18-24 months, depending on her and her environment. It takes them just as long to reconcile and come back to earth as it did for them to go into crisis. Piecing comes w/reconnection. It takes time and you can't rush the process.
She will, one day, talk to you about her remorse, but that will come later. She still has some issues to work through before that happens. Be patient, when she's ready, she will talk to you about her situation. Some think that they can sweep everything under the rug, but people can't move forward that way, everything has to be worked out and a new marriage created. Patience is the key right now. I know you want to put all of this behind you and she apologize and talk things out w/you, but she's not ready. She is on her on clock right now to get things done and that means slow.
I do not know if you read the reconnection thread, but I'm posting the link here for you:
Last edited by job; 02/08/1902:08 PM. Reason: added link to another thread
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
